The answers to all your questions around high-performance psychology, the live confidently model, and if TV characters keep acting even after you turn off the television.
The Live Confidently Model
Some basics about the model itself
Based on scientific research and this expert practice, we built the live confidently model designed to offer strategies that build and maintain confidence and performance. Tapping the expertise of four psychologists with over 50 years collective experience, we deliver specific strategies in the five live confidently foundational areas: Thrive – Use optimism and resilience to build confidence and performance Perform – Maximize your energy and focus Develop – Plan and reflect to evolve your confidence Sustain – Recovery and recharging strategies Connect – Trust and communicate
For over 20 years, we have worked with masters in the art of high performance ranging from professional and Olympic athletes to business executives, military leaders and more. Confidently brings you the coaching needed so you can Win from Within. We are the performance experts and you are the expert on you! This program only works when both the experts are working. Just like a physical strength and conditioning program, you will grow and become stronger only if you do the work. If you want to get stronger, you commit to doing the workouts in the gym several times a week — one a month just won’t cut it. If you are looking to grow your confidence, we have the programs for you. We look forward to you committing and doing the work with us!
Mojo is the Live Confidently guide! He is, in fact, Mojo once coached Yoda… and when they first met, Yoda didn’t make eye contact and thought his speaking style meant he should stay silent. Mojo gave him the tools so that he could unleash the force.
These days, Mojo gives voice and spirit to all that we have learned and shared with The live confidently model. Mojo also serves as a personal guide to encourage and suggest and nudge along the way.
Confidently offers science-backed mental fitness high-performance mindset training that is engaging and challenges you to grow. Our expert leaders in sport and performance psychology, educational psychology, business leadership, and science created cutting-edge coaching content to help you live more confidently. Apps to date have offered lessons on calming down. Confidently specifically helps you Win from Within.
The Core Factors
The 5 Core Pillars of the Live Confidently Model
This category is all about cultivating our inner strength, so we don’t just live — we thrive. Pursuing excellence in business, sports, and life can be tough. Heck, sometimes just getting out of bed in the morning is an Olympic-level challenge.
HERE’S WHAT WE’LL EXPLORE IN THE “THRIVE” CATEGORY:
▸ MOTIVATION: sustaining our journey for the long haul – using our values, social support, and past successes
▸ RESILIENCE: growing through set-backs in our personal and professional lives — using our relationships, values, and self-control.
▸ OPTIMISM: subtly reframing the way we view ourselves (and no, we aren’t suggesting everything in life is rosy!). And more!
Understand this: growth happens when we’re uncomfortable. To thrive, we must accept challenges as inevitable! And declare loud and proud, we are here to meet them! Not to “gut it out.” Not to “power through” — but to RISE.
And when we fall short? That’s a big red sign flashing GROWTH OPPORTUNITIES FOR GRABS! If only we soften our egos enough to see it.
When we do, there’s no limit to what we can accomplish—
▸ Walt Disney was almost bankrupt before the success of Snow White.
▸ Oprah Winfrey was told early in her career that she “was unfit for TV.”
▸ JK Rowling was rejected by twelve major publishers for the Harry Potter series before Bloomsbury took a chance. We ALL have that same potential to thrive — when we learn the tools to unlock it. Where to begin? That’s a question only you can answer.
Imagine this scenario: We’re standing in front of a group of people, about to give a talk that matters. All eyes are on us, shining like spotlights.
There’s a lot at stake, and our heart is racing — This is a high pressure performance situation!
Our hands shake and have stopped listening to our brain. A drop of sweat falls from our forehead and joins the pool flooding our feet. We open our mouth but our voice wavers and we can tell we’re speaking too fast — We’ve been sabotaged by our energy levels!
What should we do? “What to do” is what we’ll learn in the Energy Sequence.
But first — what do we mean when we say we can control our energy? CONTROLLING ENERGY is the ability to ramp up or down our emotions depending on what the particular situation calls for. It’s the power or juice that makes us either electric in a performance or too flat to go out and crush it. It’s what’s going on under the surface of every high-pressure performance situation, like a challenging conversation, a presentation, a test, or any big situation that matters to us. And energy is also something that 100% of us struggle with at least sometimes.
That may sound like a bummer — but in fact, it’s a tremendous opportunity. Because once we understand how energy and emotion impact performance, we can harness them to perform our best.
Like how I harness my best horse, Focus Filly! Simply put, peak performance is tied to EMOTIONAL REGULATION — like water skiers behind a boat.
Every emotion we feel involves:
▸ A subjective feeling state (like feeling in love)
▸ Physiological sensations (like increased blood pressure), and–
▸ An action tendency (e.g. the urge to physically or socially hug another person)
So in our opening high pressure performance situation, here’s how that broke down:
▸ We were feeling a subjective emotional state (nervousness)
▸ That manifested as a physiological sensation (increased heart rate)
▸ And a habitual response (start talking!) We’ll plan for situations where our energy is heading sky-high, or burrowing rock-bottom — and how to use tools to get it where we need to be.
Here’s one key phrase to keep in mind as we go through this sequence in the app: I will perform confidently, and mastery of my energy level and emotions will drive that.
Are you your own worst critic? Sometimes, we all are.
But when we judge our actions as “good” or “bad,” we block ourselves from seeing mistakes for what they are: opportunities for learning.
This sequence is for those of us who want to send our inner critics packing, and enjoy a judgement-free zone to grow.
In it, we’ll learn a powerful way to reflect on our performances without judging ourselves in the process. For example:
WHAT IS A BALANCED CRITIQUE?
A balanced critique is a type of high-performance reflection, where we evaluate our performances using two simple observations:
▸ One specific thing we did, and want to KEEP DOING
▸ One specific thing we want to DO DIFFERENTLY
Then, we TAKE ACTION by doing BOTH of those things next time around.
We can use it to analyze micro-actions, like cutting the perfect tomato slice (1/8th inch).
Or for bigger stuff, like mastering the art of the perfect sandwich WITH that perfect tomato slice.
Either way, when we treat our actions like objective data points – unfettered by emotion – we clear the way for profound, sustainable improvement.
A QUICK EXAMPLE:
Meet “Jim.” Jim owns a wealth management company. He wants to be a great leader, but his red hot temper keeps getting in the way.
Yesterday, an intern walked through Jim’s open door with an elementary question, and Jim let ’em have it. Later, he reflected in his outburst with a balanced critique:
▸ One specific thing Jim did, and wants to KEEP DOING → He kept his office door open, which stimulates an “open” environment.
▸ One specific thing Jim wants to DO DIFFERENTLY → Collect himself before he responds, by telling himself “calm voice, calm energy” while taking a deep breath.
Jim’s not judging himself. He’s creating a plan for NEXT TIME around. He’ll adjust, act, and improve!
Now, most of us tend to reflect on the PHYSICAL things we do DURING our performances. Which is understandable. If someone asks about our dodgeball game, our mind probably goes to the dips, dives and dodges.
But balanced critiques are also useful for reflecting on:
▸ How we PREPARE for our performances
▸ What we do AFTER our performances to process our emotions
▸ How we manage our performance ENERGY
▸ Our physical performance MECHANICS
That versatility is why Olympians, CEOs, and all manner of high achievers use balanced critique for YEARS! And we’ll explore all of it in the coming sessions.
SO, HOW CAN WE USE IT?
Balanced critiques work best for recurring “performances” we do or practice at least 4 times a week (the more, the better) – so we continuously “do” something, tweak it, and try again. Things like:
ATHLETICS → Hitting a fastball or shooting a free-throw
PERSONAL LIFE → Putting our kids to bed or eating healthier
DAILY WORK TASKS → Test preparation or participating in meetings
Welcome to the Sustain Confidently Category! This category is all about befriending ourselves, to find happiness and sustainability in our confidence journey!
HERE’S WHAT WE’LL EXPLORE IN THE “SUSTAIN” CATEGORY:
▸ SELF-COMPASSION: change how we view ourselves, so we can practice self-acceptance even when we fall short of our hopes, dreams, and expectations.
▸ SELF-CARE: support our basic needs for well-being — which helps us manage stress and operate at our best.
▸ SELF-TALK: talk to ourselves the way we would talk to a friend.
▸ REST, RECOVERY, AND SLEEP: stop viewing these as lazy or unproductive habits, and enhance them as powerful performance boosters.
And more! It’s a fact: we can’t perform well if we don’t FEEL well.
Here’s another fact: most of us are TERRIBLE at helping ourselves feel “well.”
We pull all-nighters to cram before a test. We train extra hard before our biggest athletic performances.
And when we don’t live up to our own expectations? We call ourselves harmful names — like “gumball”, “river fish,” and “dirtface” — names we wouldn’t say to anyone who we love. We don’t try new things we would crush. Or worst of all — we give up entirely.
We aren’t trying to hurt ourselves. We push ourselves to the brink BECAUSE WE CARE, and because we live in a society that views anything less as self-indulgent or lazy.
But research tells us this strategy rarely pays off in the long-term:
▸ All-nighters decrease our ability to perform because sleep deprivation hurts our memory, learning, and reaction time.
▸ And overtraining leads to inflammation and poor healing. In fact, studies have found Olympians who ramp up their training before events perform worse.
Yes, busting our hump can have an inverse relationship on our success. So it’s no wonder we get frustrated with ourselves!
Let’s vow to make a change. Right here, right now.
Let’s acknowledge that yes, we will work hard. But we will do it the RIGHT way, and take care of ourselves throughout the journey.
We know it’s easier said than done. That’s why we have science-backed sequences to help you!
Welcome to the Connect Confidently Category! In this category, we’ll enrich our lives with healthy relationships to maximize our potential for learning and growth.
What is life, after all, without human connection?
HERE’S WHAT WE’LL EXPLORE IN THE “CONNECT” CATEGORY:
▸ COMMUNICATION: tools to adjust our speaking and listening habits in ways that deepen our connections with the people around us.
▸ TRUST: tools to enhance our belief that others want the best for us — that they understand us, and value us.
▸ VULNERABILITY: tools to open ourselves up to important conversations with people who can hold us accountable for our actions, and motivate us to push ourselves — even when things get tough.
And more! Good friends make us smile. Family shows us love. And a great coach we can trust picks us up off the mat when we fall, kicks our butts when we’re slacking, and know which we need in any given moment.
See, connection does more than enhance our lives. When fostered correctly, it’s a powerful performance enhancer.
For that to happen, we have to be willing to share this confidence journey with other people. To COMMUNICATE openly, and TRUST that others want the best for us.
Does that mean always opening up to everyone about everything? Certainly not (and your Uber ride-share passengers will thank you for that). But, it means often opening up to someone.
The key is looking to the RIGHT PERSON for the RIGHT CONVERSATION at the RIGHT TIME.
▸ Someone to pick us up, as we’d lift them in their times of need.
▸ Someone to hold us accountable, or push us harder, or give us some tough love.
▸ Someone to listen to us without judgement.
▸ Someone to point us towards resources or answers that might help.
▸ Someone to simply “connect” with as a fellow human, and enjoy our time together
And there are real, science-backed methods to all of this.